One overriding trend of this 21st century has been the elevation of the individuality over conformance with society. This is dramatically demonstrated in the explosion of new terms as it relates to sexuality. From the traditional three sexualities that we grew up with: heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality, we now have a number of different sexualities that you should be aware of:
- Pansexual (gender-blind sexual attraction to all people).
- Omnisexual (similar to pansexual, but actively attracted to all genders, rather than gender-blind).
- Gynosexual (someone who’s sexually attracted to women without specification to the subject’s own gender, as both “lesbian” and “heterosexual” do).
- Demisexual (sexually attracted to someone based on a strong emotional connection).
- Sapiosexual (sexually attracted to intelligence).
- Objectsexual (sexually attracted to inanimate objects)
- Autosexual (someone who prefers masturbation to sexual activity to sexual activity with others).
- Androgynosexual (sexual attraction to both men and women with an androgynous appearance).
- Asexual (someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction).
- Graysexual (Occasionally experiencing sexual attraction, but usually not).
While you may not be personally interested in partaking in one of the above sexualities, it’s important for you to understand in the context of others at work or community, and of your children and their generation . Even if we may not agree with your child’s sexuality, it is important to being empathetic and understanding. This will not only help your children maintain his emotional well-being, but also strengthen your relationship.
The Benefit of Identifying Different Sexualities:
Upon initial glance, all these differently labeled sexualities may seem a bit much for some of us coming from a different generation. What’s the point, right? Experts have pointed out that the more specific labeling of sexualities allow people to find those with similar sexual interests and is a way of acknowledging their interest exists. Robin Dembroff, a Philosophy Professor at Yale has theorized that the genesis for these new sexualities is rooted in our current society divergence from traditional morality about sex. Noted Dembroff, “We live in a culture where increasingly, sex is being seen as something that has less to do with kinship and reproduction, and more about individual expression and forming intimate bonds with more than one partner.” Acknowledging different sexualities based upon interests has caused a shift away from attraction based upon gender of either the subject or the object of that subject’s desire to other features that are attractive.
So, the next time your child tries to explain to you about his sexuality, try to remember that times have changed, and the prism by which he sees sexuality is not so monochromatic like ours were, but a kaleidoscope of colors.
****Cocktail Chatterers, had you heard of these sexualities before this article?****
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